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If you ask three divorcees about how their divorces went, you can get three drastically different answers. If you ask three divorce lawyers their opinion on a case, you may get 10 different opinions! With that in mind, when a potential client comes in to discuss their situation, may times they begin to go off on tangents and lose focus as to what they want, what can and cannot be done in family court and so on. It is the lawyer's job to listen but to guide the client so that pertinent information can be given instead of "emotional information and vindictive desires." While people often say things they do not mean at the outset of an emotional case, it is important to tell a potential client that speaking to their lawyer is their "safe zone" and only to discuss the legal issues involved. While at the start of the case, the spouse may not want to ever see his kids again so the other spouse will be forced to carry the whole emotional load so that some twisted vengeance is paid. As an attorney, we are there to counsel the client as to what certain actions may lead to and the effects the actions will have on many. Part of your lawyer's job is to guide you in the long run in difficult situations. The lawyer is on the outside and has a better vantage point on how to steer you away from bad actions, motives and making yourself look foolish before the court.
CONTESTED DIVORCE CASES
In a contested divorce, some of the most fought over issues are: child custody, parenting time, alimony, asset division, the sale of the marital home, false allegations, business valuations, premarital and post marital property and beyond. Each of these topics and concerns take a while to truly explain and cannot be done in a simple free consultation. Expecting a lawyer to explain all of these things during a short consultation is both unfair and unrealistic. If a lawyer can some up these topics in 20-30 minutes during a consultation, god bless that lawyer but I would be skeptical. In short, you get what you pay for.
One of the topics that gets individuals most livid is alimony. The thought that a spouse has to pay alimony to an disloyal spouse, to an nonsupporting spouse, to " a lazy spouse" drives people crazy at times. This aspect of a case needs to be fully explained to a client because he or she must know what the law is and what is relevant and what is not. Acting like a crazed spouse in court certainly will not help and if the Judge has that impression of you, the Judge may seek to press upon the issue that bothers you most. Not a good idea.
When a divorce is started, because of the unknown of how long a divorce will take, you should work with your lawyer to address estate and inheritance concerns that will change because of the case. Changing your will and changing certain beneficiaries to make certain if anything were to happen to you, your wishes will go to the right people.
So while we are attorneys practicing law, we are also advocates who need to serve as your counselor to the overall situation. However, if you do not listen, there is little if anything we can do.
For more information about divorce in New Jersey visit this page or for information about child custody visit here.
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NEW JERSEY DIVORCE LAWS – THE ARTUSA LAW FIRM, P.C. JERSEY CITY DIVORCE LAWYERS AND JERSEY CITY FAMILY LAW ATTORNEYS 201-706-7910